Most of us have heard about a theory of Gratitude, it’s become a cliché for all life coaches, from yogis to career advisors. Briefly, for those who aren’t familiar with the subject, the theory is about being grateful for everything you’ve got and saying thank you out loud a few times until it sinks in. Different people present the theory in different angles, from meditating on gratefulness for the hands and feet to writing down poster notes and sticking them on a mirror. However, to me no matter how many books I’ve read on the subject, from Buddhist literature to famous coaches such as Robin Sharma and alike, it’s always been a bit ‘cheesy’ and easier said than done. No matter how hard I tried I could talk to my own reflection in the morning, until one day I realised that I… should be talking to othersinstead (and no I am not talking about telling others that I’m grateful to be alive and not ill with a flu).
The powerful idea is … and I didn’t come up with it entirely by myself, it is a result of all the literature I’ve read on how to live a life worth living, of all the sessions with psychology therapists I had due to being confused, messy and depressed, and also from observing other people I know in-person, studying their life and Instagram pages. The idea is that if you want to be truly happy in your life no matter where you are and what you do, you should talk to others and simply project an image that you are extremely happy already. Even if it doesn’t feel right at first, just try to fake that exaugurated happinessthat might not yet exist, but I’m sure there is something in everyone’s life that they can be proud to ‘brag’ about. You don’t have to go to such an extreme of telling everyone about how amazing your life is, although some people that I know do it all over their Instagram and subsequently their life is shaping out really well and by the law of positive attraction (we all read the book Secret, right?)is becoming even better. I do however suggest from personal experience, that by sharing positive thoughts with people close to you does make you a lot more motivated, happy and successful than by sharing fears, negativity and failures. And in fact this may suggest we have to lie from time to time, not necessarily making stuff up (although this works as well), but rather lying about your attitudes and mood. For example, if you hate your job, start by saying about how much you love it and try and find little things for what you can love it for.
The job that I am about to get is in highly intensive and tough industry of investment management and portfolio assets, that’s what I studies for 7 years, first through Bachelors than by completing a Master from a top university, hence the name of my webpages. I loved my studying and hated every minute of it at the same time, I hated being exhausted, not having enough sleep and simply not having the energy for anything else I love doing. Now I am about to begin an immensely competitive job in London, with unlimited hours and potentially broken weekends, with no time for hobbies, beauty or relaxation. When you look at it this way, you get a very gloomy picture, right?
Now let’s flip that coin on the opposite side. I was extremely lucky to get that job in the first place, because of not only the prestige and size of the firm, but also due to the nature of the job, which is mentally challenging, intellectually stimulating, offering extensive training opportunities, working with the brightest people on the planet, learning from the best, almost unlimited salary and career progression opportunities. Moreover, portfolio analysis was something I always dreamed to do, from being back at my home country without any opportunities to even find a company that would offer a job of that kind, let alone getting the job. People stretch themselves to the limits to be in that industry and to be in my position, not to mention that the job gives me the opportunity to ‘try it out’ first before I can decide to do it long-term. The office is in an amazing, high-rise glass building in Central London with beautiful work environment and I already went shopping for my FinanceBeautiful wardrobe of business clothes, which I’m certainly going to cover in the coming pages… Different picture, yeah? Amazingly, even by writing these words and sharing them unanimously on the web changed my whole perception on what I am about to do with my life.
Thinking and talkingpositively will not only get you motivated, but also will help you get excited and truly happy about anything you’ve got on your plate right now, because like Schopenhauer stated in his major philosophical thesis, energies have to balanceand negatives cancel out by positives to remain constant. That’s the principal of life, there is good and bad in everything and it’s your choice what you want to focus on.
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